Worth More Than Rubies: The 1:1 Experience
WORTH MORE THAN RUBIES: 1:1 EXPERIENCE
You Don't Need Another Situationship. You Need to Know Your Worth.
If you've read Worth More Than Rubies, you already know my story. What I haven't said as plainly until now is this: I didn't waste one bad relationship. I wasted years. And every year I didn't know my worth cost me something specific — time I can't get back, energy I poured into the wrong men, and money I spent trying to make something work that was never going to.
That's the pattern I want to help you break in eight weeks, one-on-one, before it costs you what it cost me.
The Pattern Nobody Warns You About
Here's what not knowing your value actually does. It doesn't just show up once. It shows up as a pattern, and the pattern has a knock-on effect that touches everything:
You feel rejected or overlooked, so you go looking for validation — and you find it in the wrong places, because that's where it's offered.
You mistake attention for love, so you give yourself away trying to prove you're worth choosing.
It doesn't fill the ache. It never does. So you go looking again, with someone new, hoping this time will be different.
Every cycle costs you a little more: a little more of your confidence, a little more of your time, a little more of your story you'll later wish you could rewrite.
I lived this. I was on dating sites looking for someone to love me, and I found love in all the wrong places. After got born again in 2012, I knew I didn't want to keep living that way — but knowing what you don't want isn't the same as knowing how to walk in something different. I had the conviction. I didn't have the strategy. And that gap is where so many of us get stuck — not because we don't want better, but because nobody ever showed us how to actually walk it out.
What It Actually Costs You
This is the part most people never say out loud, so I will: not knowing your worth doesn't just cost you heartbreak. It costs you real time, real energy, and real money — even after you've made the decision to change.
I know, because I lived both sides of it.
The first time God confronted me about my worth, I was on dating sites, not long after I'd been born again, heading toward a situation I never should have let myself get close to. He got me out of it, and asked me a question I've never forgotten:
So why do you keep giving yourself away as though you are worth nothing? Do you not know that you are of greater value?"
That question changed how I lived. I made the decision that day.
But deciding isn't the same as knowing how. Years later, I found myself flying back and forth between the UK and the US for a relationship I believed was leading somewhere. I hadn't compromised — the conviction held. But I still spent years, energy, and money investing in a future that was never actually being built.
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Why Willpower Alone Doesn't Break It
Here's what I want you to hear, because it took me years to learn it myself: deciding you're worth more isn't the same as knowing how to live like it. I made the decision to live in purity long before I knew how to actually do it. My heart had changed. My habits hadn't caught up. And a commitment without a strategy will always leave you vulnerable — not because you're weak, but because nobody ever walked you through what it actually looks like day to day.
That's the gap between reading a book and doing the work with someone beside you. A book can show you the truth. A 1:1 experience helps you actually build the life around it — the boundaries, the discernment, the daily practice — with someone who has already walked the road and knows exactly where the traps are.
What Eight Weeks With Me Actually Gives You
The 1:1 Experience takes you through all eight chapters of Worth More Than Rubies — one per week — in personal, guided sessions with me. This isn't a repackaging of the book. It's the book, walked out, with you, in real time:
A guided walk through your own reflections and answers from the workbook — not alone in a journal, but with someone helping you actually process what surfaces.
Practical, prayerful support to strengthen your resolve in this season — the strategy I didn't have, so you don't have to learn it the hard way like I did.
A safe, personal space held by someone who has walked this road herself, not a stranger reciting theory.
Real accountability — the kind that catches you before the compromise, not after.
What This Actually Saves You
Think of it as an investment against the cost of doing this alone:
Time — instead of years spent repeating the same cycle with a new name attached to it, you get eight focused weeks that actually move you forward.
Energy — instead of white-knuckling willpower on your own and burning out every time temptation shows up, you get someone in your corner who already knows the way out.
Money — instead of the flights, the gifts, the emotional spending that goes into chasing the wrong relationship (I know the exact receipts), you invest once, in yourself, in something built to actually change the pattern.
Heartbreak — instead of finding out the hard way, again, you get to find out on purpose, with support, before the next situation costs you more than you meant to give.
This Isn't Theory. I Walked It.
I'm not coaching you through something I read about. I'm the woman who was on dating sites looking for love in the wrong places. I'm the woman who ended up on a man's bed and had to fight my way out of a compromise I didn't want to be in. I'm the woman God asked, “Would you give away your car? Your house? Your bank account?” — and then asked why I kept giving myself away for free.
“So why do you keep giving yourself away as though you are worth nothing? Do you not know that you are of greater value?”
That conversation changed everything. I stopped selling myself cheap. And I married for the first time at 45 — proof that God's timing is never wasted, and that the work of knowing your worth is never wasted either.
If you're still in the cycle, I'm not asking you to have it all figured out. I'm asking you to let someone walk the next eight weeks with you, so this doesn't cost you what it cost me.
Ready?
Spots are limited because this is 1:1 — I can only walk alongside a small number of women at a time, because I want to be fully present for each person I work with.
Submitting the application isn't an automatic booking — it's the first step. We'll have a short conversation together to make sure it's the right fit before anything is finalised.
Please note: This is a coaching and mentorship experience, not therapy or clinical counselling. It's a personal, guided journey — not a substitute for professional care. If you're currently navigating trauma or a mental health crisis, I'd encourage you to also have a licensed counsellor alongside this journey.
If you're ready, I'd love to hear from you below.
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